Dear BFF, I'm only telling you this because I care...

If your best friend gained weight, would you tell her (or him)? Would you want your friend to tell you? Is there a way to approach the subject without doing permanent damage to your friendship? Or your marriage?

Mothers are the only people on earth who seem quite comfortable telling their offspring it is time to lose some weight. And even then it seldom goes well.  When you lose weight everyone cheers for you, but when you gain weight you can hear a pin drop. Nobody (except maybe Mom and your doctor) says a word and its not because they didn't notice. 

Everybody loves to share weight loss secrets but nobody wants to hear that they have to lose weight. I have noticed that BFF's are so unwilling to tell you its time to lose weight that they actually encourage you to keep eating the wrong foods. How is that being a good friend? Maybe when it comes to unwanted weight gain you have to be your own BFF.

Take this simple no fail test: Can you comfortably button your pants? If the answer is yes, chances are your weight is stable. But, if your pants are too tight, its time to take action and I don't mean buying the next size.

Dear BFF I'm only telling you this because I care: step away from the buffet table and keep walking. You'll thank me later.